Thursday, December 21, 2006

marital advice

Now, lest you think I'm about to hand out marriage advice when I've only been married a year and half, don't worry -- I'm not. You can read on. :)

When we got married, the guests were handed little heart-shaped cards on which we requested they write their advice to us as newlyweds. Well, as you can imagine, we got our share of goofy and strange replies, but we also received a wealth of good little tidbits from seasoned married people and the Scriptures. I was looking through them today, and wanted to share some of the goodies. :) First, the serious ones.......

  • Remember it's harder to love each other in the hard times, but it means so much. And you will be in our prayers.
  • Keep your love sweet. As you don't want to lose your first love with the Saviour, don't lose your first love with the mate God has given you.
  • Lots of hugs and kisses every day and every night!
  • Don't compare your relationship to anyone else.
  • As you grow in your love for the Lord, your love for each other will naturally grow with it.
  • Grow young together and keep the faith. Just keep loving each other no matter what.
  • Each for the other......both for the Lord.
  • Never go to bed angry with each other. Enjoy every moment -- before you know it, you're gray!!
  • Christ only, always.
  • Patience is the key. Think before you speak. Always be kind to each other and most of all loving. Walk with God beside you.
  • Put each other first (after putting the Lord first).
  • Always say I love you. Keep God first in your lives.
  • Always keep the romance in your marriage -- little notes, flowers, special meals, surprise get-aways. Lord bless you both!
  • "As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord."
  • ".....and He will lead those He has redeemed."
  • Rejoice in the Lord always. This makes it so much easier to rejoice in those around us.
  • Don't tell your family members all about the arguments you have with each other. Soon you will get them resolved, but your family won't hear about that part. They will only hear about your arguments. They will think your spouse is a terrible person. So keep your disagreements between each other.
  • I challenge you to serve the Lord together faithfully in your local church and in your relationship.
  • Develop a good sense of humor. Make sure you say "I love you" every day. And a kiss -- don't leave home without it!
  • Ask God to help you overlook each other's faults. Be humble, not proud.
  • Focus on the 90% that is great in your husband, not the 10% of his shortcomings.
  • Choose your words wisely.
  • Someone told me once that when you get married young, make sure that you grow together. I would add make sure you grow closer to the Lord each day and you will grow closer to each other.
  • When something is forgiven, don't bring it up again!
  • It will be "natural" for you to expect your mate to have your parents' strengths. It will be "spiritual" if you recognize and build your mate's strengths.
  • Give massages freely. :)

Now a few sillier ones......these made us laugh as we were driving back to Canada.

  • Never criticize someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away AND you've got their shoes.
  • When you make grilled cheese, make sure the cheese is on the bread. :)
  • Clean your bedroom well and don't have 11 kids.
  • Nurse Missy, be nice to James and check his pulse and temperature.
  • Don't give Melissa a credit card and make sure to control the remote (James).
  • Make sure to take off the first day of walleye season. Chew with your mouth closed. And remember, the husband is always right. (written by a man, of course)
  • Sorry, Melissa, you should have asked us before the vows (from James' Uncle Henry)
  • Pay NO attention to Uncle Henry (from Uncle Henry's kids)
  • I think that you two should enjoy a sunset together, make every moment a joyous time of togetherness, and see each other in the beauty of a rose. :)
  • James -- if she starts yelling, start nodding real fast. If she then yells louder, switch tactics and start shaking your head real fast. Works every time.

And top prize goes to........a card that is completely stained through with oil/salad dressing. The inscription reads "Don't eat salad on top of the advice card!!!!"

I'm glad we did this. If I ever feel discouraged, I can pull these cards out and read them. They never fail to encourage me, make me cry, or at the very least, make me smile. :-D I love being married.

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Christmas prep


Life is busy. But whose isn't this time of year? I gotta say I love it though....... Just going to the mall and hearing Christmas tunes and shoving your way through throngs of people. Woo hoo. And NO SNOW!! Hallelujah! Seeing Santa at the mall does make me happy, though. I think he should be there all year round, so at least I would have one reason to smile when I went to the mall. But anyways.....

Work is keeping us both busy. We are both in fields where we could end up working any or all holidays, but we actually aren't working too many hours!!! I am working 8 hours on Christmas and 8 hours on Boxing Day and that's all. Nothing on New Year's Eve or Day, and James has every single one off. Hmmmmm. Is there a catch somewhere?

Lots of Christmas cards are starting to arrive to fill the mantle. I think most of the shopping has been done, just need to get some stuff to fill the stockings and gifts for the exchange at Jamie's parents' house on Christmas Day. Can it really be going this smoothly? :)

I have not really had my jobs very long, one for about two months, the other only about a month, so I was not overly expecting anything from them around the holidays. But, from my private care job, I got a big basket of goodies for Christmas, and from the nursing home, I got a turkey!! Guess what James got? Nothing! What else can we expect from the government? Ha ha, they're all the same.

I took care of a lady for two weeks back in October, and we kind of became friends through it all. We just hit it off really well, so now we drop each other notes just to say hi every once in a while and all that. Anyways, I got a Christmas card from her in the mail the other day, and I was soooooo surprised to see that she had included a very hefty gift certificate to a cute little restaurant in town! But even more than that, it was touching to read what she wrote.......I think that being appreciated is one of the best feelings in the world.

So, what else? Well, it's 7:53 am and I need to get going. I just got home from work about 45 minutes ago. Now I need to shower and get a pot of chili going for supper tonight. Then around 10:00, I'm headed over to the in-laws for Christmas baking. Will the fun never end? Yes, unfortunately, it will.......right after Christmas. And then, just when my spirits threaten to damper, it arrives just in time -- the paycheck with holiday pay!!!! Now THAT is something to look forward to.......

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Christmas carols for the disturbed......

LOL, these had me cracking up!!!

1. Schizophrenia --- Do You Hear What I Hear?

2. Multiple Personality Disorder --- We Three Kings Disoriented Are

3. Dementia --- Was I Going To Be Home for Christmas?

4. Narcissistic --- Hark the Herald Angels Sing About Me

5. Manic --- Deck the Halls and Walls and House and Lawn and Streets and Stores and Office and Town and Cars and Buses and Trucks and Trees and.....

6. Paranoid --- Santa Claus is Coming to Town to Get Me

7. Borderline Personality Disorder --- Thoughts of Roasting on an Open Fire...

8. Personality Disorder --- You Better Watch Out, I'm Gonna Cry, I'm Gonna Pout, Maybe I'll Tell You Why...

9. Attention Deficit Disorder --- Silent Night, Holy Oooh look at the Nativity, Can I have a chocolate, Why is Santa's suit red?

10. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder --- Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle....


Something happened in our church on Sunday that both confused and saddened us. I think we are both still reeling from the shock. I can't really go into too many details, but I hope and pray that it is a situation that can be worked out. And please pray that our reaction will be the proper one. I think my husband is going to talk to our pastor this week.

I almost think this is God's way of saying that we can't get too comfortable in our surroundings, we need to actively seek His face and yearn to serve Him ON OUR OWN. The church, while it is necessary and a great source of encouragement and growth, CANNOT be our crutch.

This probably doesn't make too much sense, but I wanted to vent a little. I may post more later, depending on what happens.

Thursday, December 7, 2006

it's getting old

For all those of you out there who are eagerly anticipating the arrival of snow, this post will seem petty and annoying and whiny to you. So skip it if you must. But.......

I am sick of snow!!!!

Honestly, how many days in a row can it snow? I think we're on about the seventh day now, and it's driving me nuts. It's oh so much fun to have to start the car about 15 minutes before you want to leave, clear all the snow off it, scrape the ice off the windows, get the bottoms of your pants wet, and skid off the highway almost leading to your death while driving. Love it! And gotta love those huge piles of pretty white stuff sitting on our street that will doubtless become icky muddy brown heaps in a matter of a few days.

Winter can go.......come summer!!!

Tuesday, December 5, 2006

I am in love.......

with my new iPod!!! (oh yeah, and with my husband too, since he bought it for me :)

Anywho, it is the cutest thing! And I can see how it would be addicting to keep downloading songs with money that you don't have. :) It's an iPod shuffle, measures only about an inch and a half across -- I know, crazy, right? But I <3 it. It has given me a reason to relive my youth (i.e. downloading my favorite songs from the 90's and high school days).

The wonders of technology......

Monday, December 4, 2006


So, I was tagged, and I'm actually responding? Can it be true? :) Enjoy!

ABC's Meme

A - Available/Single? my husband says no :)

B - Best Friend? well, Jamie is definitely my best far as girls go, I'd say I have two or three that are pretty close

C- Cake or Pie? depends on my mood........but I will say pie (just not blueberry!)

D - Drink Of Choice? iced tea

E - Essential Item You Use Everyday? toothbrush, hairbrush, deodorant, and the shower........I guess clothes are good too!

F - Favorite Color? pink and purple and black

G - Gummy Bears Or Worms? I like those sour worms.....

H - Hometown? definitely Allentown, PA

I - Indulgence? ummmm going shopping and spending lots of money!

J - January Or February? I guess January.........I've never particularly liked February

K- Kids & Their Names? kids are all right, I guess :) As far as names go, I like Jacob and Adrianna

L - Life Is Incomplete Without? my relationship with God, my husband, and my family

M - Marriage Date? July 23, 2005!

N- Number Of Siblings? two big brothers, one big sister, and one little brother who is a lot bigger than me

O - Oranges Or Apples? again, depends on my mood, but I guess apples

P - Phobias/Fears? I do NOT like any bugs, spiders, bats, being alone in the dark, birds, MOLD......yeah, I'm pretty creeped out by a lot of things

Q - Favorite Quote? "No good thing will He withhold from them that walk uprightly"

R - Reason to Smile? I have the day off!!

S - Season? SUMMER!!! Bring it on!

T - Tag Two Or Three People? yah, whoever wants to

U - Unknown Fact About Me? I was hit by a car when I was 13 years old

V - Vegetable you don’t like? brussels sprouts is the only thing that's coming to mind

W - Worst Habit? I guess I talk too much and I'm rather stubborn

X - X-rays You’ve Had? oh, lots.........chest, teeth, abdomen, arm, back, and who knows what else

Y - Your Favorite Food? I like the answer Anne cream makes me happy! :)

Z - Zodiac Sign? Leo........rowwrrr!

There, my blog officially feels like myspace!

Saturday, December 2, 2006

medical imponderables

I was going to title this "sick as a dog." Then I got to thinking, where did that expression come from anyways? I have never seen a dog with a cold or the flu.......maybe an upset stomach for a little while, but that's about it. So why do we, as humans, compare our sick selves to the generally healthy dog?

Another question I have been wondering about. (I've been sick, so I have had a lot of time to sit around and think. This is not normal behavior. :)) So, do cold medications really help you to get better faster, or do they merely mask your symptoms? I know I shouldn't be asking this, cuz y'all will just say, you're a nurse, you should know. :) And yet I have this great question, even with the letters R.N. behind my name. I tend to think cold meds just mask the symptoms to make you more comfortable while your body heals itself (or rather God heals it). I think there have been plenty of times when I didn't take any medication at all, and miracle of miracles, I STILL GOT BETTER!!!

Also, does the flu shot make you get sick? I have heard so many reports and studies saying, no, it doesn't, it can't, it's not a live virus, etc etc etc. But all I know is that I got the flu shot on Tuesday of last week and I was sick by Friday of that same week. A week later here, I am on the mend, but my husband has no signs of it at all, and we're usually quite good at sharing. So, I tend to think that it's a bit too coincidental for my liking. I would never have gotten the shot if it weren't required for my job.......I think I will charge the costs of my Kleenex and juice and Tylenol Cold to my employer. The thought of even attempting such a thing makes me smile. :)

Hmmm, on a side note.........still medically speaking, but not necessarily mom is not doing all that well. She is having so much pain, and she is going to see a specialist on Monday. If you remember, I'd appreciate your prayers!!

P.S. Confidential to Jeanette in Oregon: Happy 27th birthday, big sis!!! Yeah, you're old now! (I feel a little like Dear Abby writing a little confidential postscript to